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My Father, Bàba, in Proverbs

Remembering our roots

Illustration by Carmen Johns


One should not forget one’s roots.

My father, Bàba 爸爸, is an electrical engineer by training, a precise man who wore neatly pressed suits and silk ties to work for thirty years at a phone company. He taught me, an only child, to be careful and methodical. Read manuals first and always…




A new magazine from Roxane Gay offering some of the most interesting and thoughtful cultural criticism to be found on the Web. Our first quarterly is coming in June 2019. We value deep explorations, timelessness, and challenging conventional thinking without being cheap and lazy.

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NorCal writer + VONA fellow. Published in WaPo, NYT + GAY. Memoir-in-progress about family ties, depression and the silences we learn to break.

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